When I tell people I’m a doula there are two main questions I get. First, many people ask, “How did you decide to pursue a profession as a doula?” After all, I’m a recent college graduate with no significant other and no children; I “could be doing anything” they say.
My answer to the question is I wanted to be an obstetrician. I entered college on the pre-med track and was set on being a doctor until I realized I am much better suited at supporting people emotionally. While I have no problem with bodily fluids and functions or needles or other medical things, I felt that as a doctor I would be missing out on making connections and building relationships with clients.
The next question they ask is “What do you have to bring to the field as a doula?” I have three answers to that.
- I bring knowledge and experience of working with a diverse array of families. Do I have firsthand experience with pregnancy and childbirth? No; however, this means that as your doula I will be bringing a fresh mind to your journey. I won’t be bringing baggage and memories associated with my own birth experiences. I will be wholly committed to you and the decisions you are making.
- As a single and childless doula I am able to drop what I am doing at any time so that I can support you. My trainer actually said to me once, “You’ve got it good. Your ducks can go a while without your attention.” And she’s right; I do not have to worry about arranging for child care, canceling date night, or missing an anniversary. I simply have to get in my car and come to you. What’s better than having someone at your beck and call?
- Finally, despite my lack of personal experience with childbirth, I have extensive training, nearly unlimited time, and a sea of resources for serving you.